FROM CHECKMATE TO LIFETIME MATES

The Love Story of Nico and Nove

EVERY wedding, so they say, always starts with a love story. Now you may want to listen to this love story of the newlyweds, my sister Nove and my good friend Nico.

First I want you to listen to this story of a shy, but bright-eyed girl in high school. She was a chess prodigy. She’s been good at playing chess, even at a very young age. She had mastered her moves even before she started training with her father.   

One particular day in August, this girl who had just turned 13 went to compete in a provincial tournament. The tournament was a group competition, and boys and girls were mixed.

But during this same period, there was another chess prodigy, a 15-year-old boy who had become popular for demolishing chess players, most of them veterans and well-known players in the province at that time in many local tournaments.  

The girl didn’t expect that she was to compete with this boy wizard. That meeting happened during the penultimate round, a game to decide who would be the champion. And the boy didn’t expect for the life of him, that the girl would defeat him in the match. It was the first time that he lost to the weaker sex, so to speak. His teammates and coach were shocked.  

In the next leg of the tournament, the boy and the girl met again for the rematch. But this time the girl and her team lost. But for the boy, he couldn’t forget that one time in his early chess-playing career he lost to a girl younger than him. This girl has a promise, he told himself.

The two chess prodigies continued meeting each other in school competitions, but this time they played in different categories. While the boy continued to shine in the boy’s category, so was the girl. They beat all their opponents in the provincial and regional meets. And they were constant teammates representing their province and their region in the Palarong Pambansa for two consecutive years. 

Then the boy graduated from high school and went to a college in Manila and continued playing chess. The girl maintained her dominance of many tournaments and went back to Palarong Pambasa during her last year in high school. 

During a chess tournament in Manila the girl and the boy met again. It was during this meeting that the boy introduced the girl to a friend, a chess player from another college. This friend had been scouting for players to play in their collegiate team, particularly the chess team for girls. So our young chess wizard recommended the girl to his friend, and later, the girl was introduced to the coach. An offer for scholarship was made to the provincial girl. And the rest is history, so to speak. 

And did love bloom between the boy and the girl? Of course, not yet.

But before I continue, and before you think I am veering away from Nove and Nico’s love story, I tell you now, that this girl was Nove herself and the boy was Nico. The college was Rizal Technological College (now University) from which they both graduated. And the coach was Mr. Mauro Yasay, who also invited Nove, and later Nico, his chess players to join this church, the Church of the Overcomer.

So let me continue my story. Nove had been a varsity player since her first year in college. Nico after two years in San Sebastian College, transferred to RTU, joining the chess team of Mr. Yasay. Here, Nove and Nico were together most of the time, particularly during practice and tournaments. In 1997, or three years after Nove joined this church, Nico was also asked to join. So it was not only in practice and actual chess competitions that they were together, but also in church activities.   

But in 1999, Nico’s heart had seemingly turned into an uncontrollable knight crisscrossing the chessboard, hoping to checkmate his opponent. He finally made a confession to Nove. He said he had fallen in love with her and wanted to be with her for the rest of his life. But Nove, was shocked, and the ever conservative, shy and very much uneducated in the love department that she was, she didn’t give any response to Nico’s affection. In fact she started avoiding her friend. No checkmate happened. Nico, just like any regular guy in situation like this, made his presence to Nove and their friends become scarce. Now like a game of chess, he changed his move. He no longer went to Nove as he used to do. 

A year after, or in 2000, Nove graduated from college with the degree Bachelor of Science in Computer Engineering. Nico graduated in the following year with the degree of BS Management. 

They parted ways, and went on to establish their respective careers. Nove got a job, so with Nico.  But Nove was not satisfied with the kind of job that she was having then. Because most of the job offers to her were related to accounting jobs, she thought she rather takes an accounting course and be an accountant, than be a mere clerk with an Engineering degree. So, like in a game of chess, she may be beaten, but she can start a winning game. So she packed up her things and went back to our hometown in Ilocos. She enrolled in BS Accountancy at the University of Northern Philippines. With sheer determination and perseverance, she survived all the hardships of finishing the course. And most importantly, she hurdled the CPA Board exam given only last year.

During her absence, Nico went to work in Ateneo as a chess coach and later moderator. In 2008, or before Nove could finish accountancy, he sought out Nove’s contact number from their common friends. He believed that woman’s heart should be so hidden in God so he also had to seek Him for guidance in finding her. He finally got her number, but at that time the number was being used by one of Nove’s nieces. Nico texted her through her niece. He persisted until he made a move that made Nove answer his messages. This started a renewal of their friendship. To Nico, it was a love rekindled. They become active joining church activities together, while their friends were clueless that Nico was earnestly pursuing Nove’s love, because even at this time, Nove was so emphatic in calling Nico kuya. Some would think they were relatives because of their closeness.

So how and when did Nove get checkmated by Nico? Well, it happened in my sister Mahren’s house in Sta. Mesa (Manila). Nico went there to look into and reformat Mahren’s computer, of course, upon Nove’s request. 

Nico was served with paksiw na sili (siling Ilocos used as vegetables) for dinner. Knowing that Nico doesn’t like that dish very much, my younger sister Mahren, playfully challenged Nico to eat all the sili, if that would show that “you really love Ate Nove,” she teased. So Nico, thinking that this was his chance of a lifetime, forced a smile, closed his eyes, took a deep breath, said a little prayer and slurped all the sili in the bowl. But of course, he did that in four hours and some episode and near episode of throwing out. You need to have the fighting spirit. You have to force moves and take chances, a quote he learned perhaps from chess master Bobby Fischer.

Nove was impressed and at that very moment, she knew she finally found the right man for her. A checkmate that ends the game. So she accepted Nico’s love offer and these two former chess prodigies, former teammates in college, church mates, old friends, finally become king and queen of their hearts. And they didn’t have to adjust so much for themselves of their newfound relationship, because they had been there before, shall we say it, unofficially, as more, more than friends.

And the rest again is now history, because right now, my sister Nove and my very good friend Nico would consummate the relationship with their marriage before this church, witnessed by their families, relatives, and friends.

I’ve read that chess is a fairy tale of 1001 blunders, but to Nove and Nico, it is a fairy tale of love and friendship. Their love for each other is sincere and divine because it is also based on good Christian teachings. 

And to end this story, a game of chess may end, but love never is. As written in I Corinthians 13:7-8, “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.”

And to Nico and Nove, thank you for sharing us your wonderful love story. May God bless you!

(I read this during the wedding of Nico Alisangco and Nove Valdez on March 24, 2012 at the Church of Overcomer, Taytay, Rizal. I got permission of the couple to post this one in this blog.)